Finding Peace of Mind

Finding peace of mind helps you feel at peace and engaged with life while also feeling relatively safe, at ease, and relaxed.
Finding peace of mind can sound cliché or even remind you of Boston’s classic song.

But ultimately, most of us long for peace of mind. I’m not referring to a feeling of peace that is numb inside, ignoring the pain of self or others. Instead, I mean a durable, fulfilling peace.

The sense of peace that lies at the core of your heart, even though you may have experienced past fear, heartache, or frustration.

When you’re at peace, you engage with life while also feeling relatively safe, at ease, and relaxed. Your immune system becomes stronger, stress levels diminish, and you become more resilient. Your perspective about the world becomes more optimistic. You see more opportunities than challenges. Feeling at peace allows us to respond, rather than react, to others, and increases the likelihood of being treated well by others. Being at peace helps you harmonize with situations and be clear and direct when you need to be.

Find peace by sitting on the deck with a book in the golden afternoon sunlight.

Enjoy your sense of peacefulness wherever you find it.

In general, society asks us to continually do more, be productive, engage socially, and always be on the go. These pressures often fool us into thinking that something is wrong with us if, instead, we want to sit on the deck with a book in the golden afternoon sunlight.

We might have a little voice inside that says, “hey, you should be out with your friends, sitting at home isn’t the right thing to do.” However, being at peace creates an opportunity for you to choose what is right for you, and when, rather than be ruled by your perception of social norms. From my perspective, peace shows up in four ways. Thinking of peace in these different forms helps me be more aware of how I’m feeling at each moment. Read through these and see which resonate with you. Try practicing one at a time, and notice how each feels. Or, if you really want to expand your peace of mind, see if you can achieve them all at one time.
Sometimes peace comes through talking with a friend.

The Peace of Being at Ease

I like to think of this as being comfortable in your own skin. This peace feels like relief and relaxation and appears in many forms. It is often simple. Looking out a window brings a sense of calm. Talking through a problem with a friend eases a weight. Taking a moment to breathe deeply settles your mental chatter.

Finishing the dishes or pulling weeds from the garden offers a sense of completion. Receiving good news about something over which you worried opens your heart. Slowly exhaling activates the soothing parasympathetic branch of your nervous system.

Ahhh. Time to rest. This form of peace is easily underestimated but is invaluable. Embrace this peace of being at ease whenever you feel it.

Tranquil peace is a deep sense of quiet in mind and body.

The Peace of Tranquility

This is deep quiet in mind and body. A sense of complete settledness. It is that perfect harmony with your internal energy and the energy around you. You are content, at the moment, to be without thinking or doing. Your body relaxes with no sense of physical strain.

Sometimes you notice this feeling of tranquility upon waking before the brain kicks into gear. Or perhaps you feel it sitting next to a mountain stream, or deep in the forest, or in a sunny meadow, or by the ocean. Maybe you notice this tranquility at the end of a yoga class, a workout, or a mediation session. There is a moment of stillness that seeps into your heart. At this moment is inner freedom, a sense of flow and connectedness to all things, that is wonderful.

Detachment can bring peace.

The Peace of Detachment

This form of peace is a bit more subtle. Perhaps you’ve experienced distress, and your mind is racing yet at the same time there is a part of you that simply witnesses what is happening, and is untroubled by what it sees. Or perhaps it shows up as a sense of quiet openness that remains calm in the midst of the chaos around you.

It is almost like a quiet eddy or side pool next to a burbling creek. Thoughts and feelings, rise and fall; but the sense of quiet space itself is not ruffled or disturbed by what passes by. It is as if there is a place in our consciousness that is always at peace regardless of the mental and emotional chatter around us. We are able to see the challenges around us, but not be carried away by them.
Peace comes from harmonizing with something greater than self.

The Peace of Knowing Something is Bigger than Self

Regardless of what is happening to you at this moment, some aspects of life will continue without your influence. Every day the sun rises and sets. Clouds form shapes in the sky, and they change with the flow of air currents.

Though individual waves lap the shore, the ocean is still the ocean. Seasons change regardless of what you have or have not done, thought, or said today.

Yet, in the midst of the vastness of nature and all elements bigger than self, you can find peace. You can shift into that place of calm contentment. You can intuit that you are a local wave in a vast sea of human culture, nature, and the physical universe; yes, you do change, but within an unchanging Allness. The sense of this, even if fleeting, can put you at peace. This form of peace connects you to the oneness of what is outside of you, something eternal.

Enjoy the process of exploring peace! If I can be of any help or answer any questions, feel free to contact me.

If you’d like to create a regular practice of cultivating peace of mind, join me online from the comfort of your home every Monday morning from 7:15 – 7:45 PT for a free 30-minute online Compassion Meditation & Qigong Practice group. We begin with standing qigong and end with a seated mudra meditation.

Or to really deepen your practice and learn how to integrate it into everyday life, join me for an International Spiritual Tour where we’ll spend 10-14 days practicing embodied mindfulness and compassion meditation, or sign up for a Cultivating Mindful Compassion course or Compassion Meditation Coaching.